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Your 3-week journey to breaking free from people-pleasing, without upsetting anyone
Are you ready to stop saying 'yes' to everything & everyone but yourself?
Lots of people jokingly call themselves a 'people-pleaser', assuming that working this hard to keep people happy and comfortable must just be who they are.
But here's what most people don't tell you - putting everyone first to the detriment of yourself isn't part of your personality, it's a habit you picked up, and you don't have to keep doing it.
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"I'm happy with anything, whatever you prefer"
...Do you say things like this?
It's not just you.
Prioritising other peoples' preferences, making yourself available, being flexible and easygoing - you don't have to do these things for people to like and accept you.
But what people don't usually tell you - years and years of being like this (plus all the positive feedback and praise it gets) has taught you to believe you do.
Do you find yourself:
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Feeling disproportionately guilty for doing the smallest things for yourself
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Looking at a calendar full of plans you wish you hadn't said yes to
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Pretending to agree with people, not knowing what you really think and like
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Doing things you don't find fun, because other people wanted to
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Assuming things are your fault & saying sorry all the time
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Being super flexible to avoid being an inconvenience
Imagine instead being able to...
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Spend your time in ways that nourish you, without feeling bad
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Say no without needing a 'valid' excuse
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Ask for a coffee, even if everyone else is having tea
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Decline a work meeting because it'll mean staying late
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Focus your energy on making yourself happy and comfortable
...without feeling like the most self-centred, rudest person on earth?
The answer isn't to stop pleasing others...
...you need to start prioritising you.
Because stopping people-pleasing isn't about no longer caring for others. It's about including yourself too.
And this isn't something to feel bad about. Your wellbeing matters just as much. Your time is equally important. Your plans are just as valid.
And maybe you have doubts, like:
✦ Can I say no without losing my natural kindness? ✦
✦ Is it even possible to prioritise yourself and not feel guilty? ✦
✦ Can I change my behaviour when it feels like who I am? ✦
Short answer: yes! Here's how - putting other people first at the cost of yourself is simply just a learned way of behaving and existing, that you've been conditioned into doing. You can unlearn all of it, and keep the parts you like :)
This is where Say Yes to You comes in 🧡
Your 3-week transformational journey to breaking free from people-pleasing
(without feeling guilty or upsetting people)
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Society, your experiences and relationships have conditioned you into thinking you need to prioritise others - it's entirely possible to 'undo' this learning.
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Putting others first at the cost of yourself is not the only way feel like you matter and belong. Healthy relationships include your needs too and most people will welcome this.
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You are more than capable of feeling good - instead of guilty - about doing what's right for you. It won't always feel this uncomfortable, I promise!
What if I told you...
...And with the right tools and understanding, you can take back control of your life.
Through this powerful self-paced course, you'll:
➡️ Understand the root cause of your people-pleasing patterns and discover why you feel such a strong need to please others. You'll feel lighter, freer, and clear about your choices.
➡️ Learn to recognise and honour your own needs and desires, while building the self-worth that helps you feel deserving of putting yourself first. Imagine being able to decline weekend plans or work requests without lying awake at night feeling guilty.
➡️ Develop a kinder, more caring relationship with yourself, making self-care feel natural and necessary, rather than selfish and indulgent. Picture yourself confidently sharing your opinion in meetings, calmly telling family members "that doesn't work for me," and feeling genuinely good about prioritising your own wellbeing.
Inside, you'll find:
✨ 9 mini podcast teachings (perfect with a cuppa!)
✨ 12 reflection exercises & journal prompts
✨ A printable workbook, with examples, transcripts and space to complete the exercises
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Hello - I'm Elsie Owen, the Psychotherapist behind Say Yes to You.
As a therapist and recovering people-pleaser, I know how exhausting it is to constantly put others first. My pleasing was marked by unbalanced relationships, hyper-attunement to others' needs, and complete disconnection from myself.
Through therapy, I discovered that prioritising myself didn't mean becoming selfish – it just meant finding a way to include myself in the care and kindness I give everyone else.
Now, with nearly a decade of experience helping others make this same transformation, I've created Say Yes to You, a course designed to help fellow people-pleasers reclaim their lives, too.
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Who is this course designed for?This course is ideal for people who have a tendency to put other people first, leading them to feel anxious, stressed and resentful, and would LOVE to be able to prioritise their own needs without feeling guilty.
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What's the difference between a course and therapy?This course is a psycho-educational resource focused on understanding and overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, for educational purposes only. This course is not an appropriate substitute for therapeutic treatment, a therapeutic relationship, or formal medical or mental health care. Therapy is a professional relationship, tailored to your goals and needs, offering in-depth support. Some people sign up for the course alongside therapy. While it's not a replacement for therapeutic support, it can complement the work you’re already doing really nicely. I always suggest letting your therapist know you’re working through the content!
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I feel guilty spending money on myself - how do I know if it's worth it?It's so common to question investing in yourself when people-pleasing is a pattern - that hesitation is part of what we'll be working on together. You might consider: How easily would you make a similar investment for someone you love? What's the cost of continuing to put everyone else first? (time, burnout, stress, your happiness?) Breaking this down, it's about £5.70 per day for the structured course period - basically a posh coffee out (therapy with me is £95 a session). You get lifetime access, meaning you can revisit these tools and teachings whenever you need them. The skills you'll learn will serve you in every relationship and situation going forward. They may just change your life!
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What format is the course in?There's 3 weeks of content, but it's totally self-guided, so you can progress at your own pace. The course includes audio sessions (max 8 mins), a comprehensive workbook with all the content in written form, and journal prompts and exercises. You can engage in whatever way feels most helpful - listening, reading, writing, or a combo.
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How much time do I need to set aside each day?About 15 minutes, which works nicely with a cuppa!
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How long will I have access for?Lifetime! So take as much time as you need. There's no rush, and you can revisit materials as often as needed.
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What topics are covered?You'll explore the roots of people-pleasing, techniques to identify and express your own needs, and strategies to build self-worth and set healthy boundaries.
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What if I need support while doing the course?While this is a self-study course, you're welcome to reach out with any technical questions. For emotional support during this process, I encourage connecting with your existing support system, whether that's friends, family, or your therapist.
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What is your refund policy?The course is non refundable. If you are unsure if this course will be of value, please contact me at info@elsieowen.com and I will be happy to answer any questions and support you as best as possible with your decision!
Ready to start prioritising you?
Your investment includes:
➡️ 3 weeks of structured guidance to transform your people-pleasing patterns
➡️ 9 specialist audio teachings
➡️ A comprehensive workbook with exercises and transcripts
➡️ Lifetime access to all materials for ongoing support
And you'll have:
🧡 More time for yourself, without feeling guilty
🧡 Less stress and anxiety from constant people-pleasing
🧡 More energy, time and capacity for what matters
🧡 Skills and strategies you'll use for life
Join for £120 (or 2 payments of £60)
By making payment, you agree to these terms.
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Who is this course designed for?This course is ideal for people who have a tendency to put other people first, leading them to feel anxious, stressed and resentful, and would LOVE to be able to prioritise their own needs without feeling guilty.
-
What's the difference between a course and therapy?This course is a psycho-educational resource focused on understanding and overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, for educational purposes only. This course is not an appropriate substitute for therapeutic treatment, a therapeutic relationship, or formal medical or mental health care. Therapy is a professional relationship, tailored to your goals and needs, offering in-depth support. Some people sign up for the course alongside therapy. While it's not a replacement for therapeutic support, it can complement the work you’re already doing really nicely. I always suggest letting your therapist know you’re working through the content!
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I feel guilty spending money on myself - how do I know if it's worth it?It's so common to question investing in yourself when people-pleasing is a pattern - that hesitation is part of what we'll be working on together. You might consider: How easily would you make a similar investment for someone you love? What's the cost of continuing to put everyone else first? (time, burnout, stress, your happiness?) Breaking this down, it's about £5.70 per day for the structured course period - basically a posh coffee out (therapy with me is £95 a session). You get lifetime access, meaning you can revisit these tools and teachings whenever you need them. The skills you'll learn will serve you in every relationship and situation going forward. They may just change your life!
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What format is the course in?There's 3 weeks of content, but it's totally self-guided, so you can progress at your own pace. The course includes audio sessions (max 8 mins), a comprehensive workbook with all the content in written form, and journal prompts and exercises. You can engage in whatever way feels most helpful - listening, reading, writing, or a combo.
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How much time do I need to set aside each day?About 15 minutes, which works nicely with a cuppa!
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How long will I have access for?Lifetime! So take as much time as you need. There's no rush, and you can revisit materials as often as needed.
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What topics are covered?You'll explore the roots of people-pleasing, techniques to identify and express your own needs, and strategies to build self-worth and set healthy boundaries.
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What if I need support while doing the course?While this is a self-study course, you're welcome to reach out with any technical questions. For emotional support during this process, I encourage connecting with your existing support system, whether that's friends, family, or your therapist.
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What is your refund policy?The course is non refundable. If you are unsure if this course will be of value, please contact me at info@elsieowen.com and I will be happy to answer any questions and support you as best as possible with your decision!
By making payment, you agree to these terms.
Join for £120, or 2 payments of £60
Think of this as an investment in your future relationships, decisions, and the future 'nos' that will feel easier. The tools and insights you'll gain will serve you long after the course ends. You're not just investing in a course; you're investing in a new way of living that prioritises your wellbeing alongside everyone else’s.
Join Say Yes to YOu