The Boundaries Course
Learn to identify, communicate & maintain gentle boundaries in your life & relationships
You know you need to work on your boundaries.
All too often, you don't express your needs because you don’t want to annoy anyone.
To avoid the unbearable awkwardness of disappointing others, you ignore that little internal voice that silently screams "no".
If only you could start saying what you want a bit more and apologise unnecessarily a bit less.
You're fearful of how people will see you.
You don't want them to think you're difficult.
There's always that feeling of not wanting to upset anyone.
Imagine if you could say no to invitations without that heavy feeling of guilt for letting people down?
Or maybe you'd like to meet up with friends when it suits you, not always when it works for them?
Hello - I'm Elsie
I'm a recovering people-pleaser and Psychotherapeutic Counsellor.
For a long time, my life and my feelings were dictated by other people - I didn't know what it meant to do things purely for myself.
It felt selfish and unkind.
I would regularly over-commit myself, only to let others down (the very thing I was trying to avoid) and I prided myself on being flexible and easygoing.
After losing my way a little and ending up in therapy, I slowly learned that there was another way to live.
A way of life that was centred on what I needed and wanted.
...and it didn't involve becoming the thoughtless, hurtful and difficult person I thought it would - who knew?!
Today, I absolutely love helping other lovely people discover this, too.
The Boundaries Course is a simple, gentle and ever so gradual guide to setting the boundaries you really need right now, but that you are too unsure or wary to create.
I would love to show you how to connect with your needs, name new boundaries (we'll start off small) and discover how to communicate them with confidence and kindness to those around you.
“Before I did The Boundaries Course, I wanted to gain a better understanding and insight into the concept of boundaries - specifically people pleasing behaviour and feeling 'responsible' for others, so that I might be better able to address this (exhausting!) behaviour in my own life, and start to tip the balance towards me for a change.
I now have a much clearer awareness of when I'm not acting in my best interest and the impact that inevitably has on me and my well-being....The course has helped me gain a real logical understanding of what previously I couldn’t really articulate or get my head round, or see a way out of, in terms of those patterns of behaviour that I'm so used to.
I found the encouragement and time to reflect most useful. The pace was perfect, small and bitesize learning but hugely impactful at the same time. Also I think it really helped that [Elsie has her] own first-hand experience in people-pleasing and boundaries and so the teaching felt authentic and proven - which gave me confidence and reassurance.
For a long time I’ve felt that it's just me that's hard-wired to people-please, feel guilty, apologise unnecessarily, ignore my inner voice, feel responsible for other's emotion and now I feel more capable of addressing this, and less alone in doing so. Thank you Elsie”
Ciara | Completed The Boundaries Course in February 2021
How is it delivered?
1 module every week, for 5 weeks
3 trainings each week, sent to you by email on a Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning
Each training is less than 10-minutes, with the choice of listening to the audio or reading the transcript
There are short exercises to do on Tuesdays, Thursdays and over the weekends - things like templates to complete or journal prompts to reflect on
During our 5 weeks together, we'll cover:
How to work out what you actually need
How to identify and name the smallest boundaries that'll make the most difference to your life
How to go about asking for what you need in a gentle, kind and compassionate way
What to be mindful of, so you have the best chance of maintaining your new boundaries long-term
This course can:
Help you to understand your relationship with boundaries
Help you develop small, manageable boundaries (like saying no to things you don't want to do)
Support you to step into your own power & create meaningful changes for yourself
This course can not:
Provide an alternative or substitute to working with a therapist
Support you with creating more complex boundaries (like overcoming longstanding relationship difficulties)
Offer you a 'one size fits all' or fast-track method for finding boundaries easy