The Boundaries Course 3.0
Learn to set & maintain gentle boundaries in your life & relationships
Monday 11th October - Friday 12th November 2021
This course is for you if you struggle to put yourself first, but would love for things to be different...
If, after a long time people-pleasing and second guessing, you’re ready to create more space for your own needs and take back control of your life.
You probably already know that you could do with ‘working on your boundaries’.
But you might not yet know what your boundaries are or how to put them in place.
You may be a little bit terrified by the idea of anyone thinking you’re ‘difficult’ or selfish. Maybe you can’t stand the thought of upsetting anyone with an unexpected ‘no’.
I’d love to reassure you that you can set and maintain healthy personal boundaries in a way that feels gentle, respectful and supportive.
And you deserve that. Because life without boundaries is exhausting...
Right now, your world might look something like this:
• You feel overwhelmed, drained and too-busy all the time.
• You rarely put yourself first and you struggle to take up space.
• You worry that sharing how you feel or asking for help makes you a burden to others – so you avoid it at all costs.
• You hate conflict and often agree to things just to keep the peace.
• You feel deeply responsible for the comfort and happiness of everyone around you – to the detriment of your own.
• You tend to ignore your internal voice as it silently screams ‘no’ while you say yet another ‘yes’.
• You hate letting people down, but as you’re always overcommitting yourself, you frequently do.
• You see everyone else setting boundaries and asking for what they need, and you wonder why you can’t do the same.
Imagine if you could say no to invitations without that heavy feeling of guilt for letting people down.
If you could communicate how you really feel and ask for what you need – without so much fear, guilt or shame.
“I knew something needed to change and I felt really overwhelmed. Everything felt chaotic and out of control. Everything felt up in the air.
Now I feel more in control just having the knowledge that it’s possible to put into place boundaries in a way that feels kind of respectful and honours who I am as a person, and knowing that the discomfort of that is ok. And I also just feel a lot more calm and grounded.
I feel like a completely different person to who I was a couple of months ago. I really like who I am today.”
Amy | Completed The Boundaries Course in June 2021
Introducing The Boundaries Course
Over our 5 weeks together, you’ll learn to:
✓ Gently start to take up space and ask for the things you need.
✓ Listen to your inner voice – honouring it when it says ‘no’.
✓ Understand that you’re not responsible for everybody else in your life.
✓ Start the process of separating yourself from the needs of others.
✓ Tolerate other people not always feeling ok with your choices.
✓ Enjoy more balanced relationships that have space for you in them too.
✓ Develop a more loving, caring, kind relationship with yourself.
✓ Choose to look after yourself a lot better and more consistently.
✓ Understand that you’re not alone in this, as you enjoy a safe and comfortable space to talk about all of this stuff with people who feel the same.
"When I started the course, I was looking for more clarity around boundaries, how to set and maintain them. Benefits I have experienced include more confidence in setting boundaries within my existing relationships and feeling better able to maintain them/notice any breaches & identify where I need to reinforce them.
All the content was super accessible and valuable – a huge thank you to you Elsie :) you've created a fantastic resource!"
Anon | Completed The Boundaries Course in December 2020
Hello - I'm Elsie
I'm a recovering people-pleaser and Psychotherapeutic Counsellor.
For a long time, my life and my feelings were dictated by other people - I didn't know what it meant to do things purely for myself.
It felt selfish and unkind.
I would regularly over-commit myself, only to let others down (the very thing I was trying to avoid) and I prided myself on being flexible and easygoing.
After losing my way a little and ending up in therapy, I slowly learned that there was another way to live.
A way of life that was centred on what I needed and wanted.
...and it didn't involve becoming the thoughtless, hurtful and difficult person I thought it would - who knew?!
I love helping other people discover this too, and I’ve created The Boundaries Course to do just that.
This is the third time I’ve run the course and I can’t wait to support more lovely humans, like you, through the process.
what you'll learn
Each week, you’ll get trainings and exercises to help you set, communicate and maintain your own gentle boundaries:
Resetting your relationship to boundaries. You’ll reflect on your own experience of boundaries and learn what setting a boundary really means.
Connecting to your inner voice. We’ll look at where you need boundaries and why you need them, and you’ll identify an area to focus on.
Clearing space for change. Here’s where you create your vision for a more boundaried life. You’ll also learn how to identify and transform your limiting beliefs about boundaries.
Communicating your boundaries. You’ll practise asking for what you need in a gentle, kind and compassionate way. And start to build your tolerance towards discomfort.
Maintaining your boundaries. In our final week, you’ll be putting in place all the support you need to hold and maintain your boundaries in the longer term. And we’ll finish with a group celebration of all that you’ve achieved.
I’ll help you connect with your needs, name some boundaries (we'll start off small) and discover how to communicate them with confidence and kindness to those around you.
How The Boundaries Course works
Here's how each week of the course will look:
On the Monday, Wednesday and Friday, you'll get a short email from me which will include 3 things:
A link to an audio teaching (10 mins or less)
A link to the written version of that teaching
A link to some exercises, usually connected to the topic of the teaching
The idea is that you listen to the teachings on the Monday, Wednesday and Friday and you take some time on the Tuesday, Thursday and over the weekend, for the exercises.
We'll also be meeting for our group coaching sessions at 7:30pm (UK time) on the Tuesday, on Zoom. The session recordings will be sent to you in your Wednesday emails.
At the start of the course, you'll receive your copy of The Boundaries Course Workbook, which brings together the written versions of the teachings, the exercises and space to reflect on our group sessions.
The course content is available for life - for as long as it exists - and your access to the recordings will expire at the end of our 5 weeks together.
“I found the encouragement and time to reflect so useful. The pace was perfect, small and bitesize learning but hugely impactful at the same time.
Also I think it really helped that [Elsie has her] own first-hand experience in people-pleasing and boundaries and so the teaching felt authentic and proven – which gave me confidence and reassurance".
Ciara | Completed The Boundaries Course in February 2021
How The Boundaries Course feels
This course will give you the gentle encouragement and loving space you need to create and maintain healthy boundaries.
I will fully support you, guiding you through the audio trainings & exercises and during our weekly calls.
And you’ll be part of a real community of brilliant people who totally get it. You’ll feel seen, heard and understood as you take this journey together.
“The Boundaries Course was completely wonderful from beginning to end. Elsie did a phenomenal job of creating a safe, supportive environment for us all to share freely and I felt uplifted each week thanks to the openness, warmth and kindness of the other women who took part in the course.
The Zoom sessions of the boundaries group was a key draw for me in going for the course. Everyone was so open and I was constantly inspired by everyone’s bravery. I felt a real kinship with them all.
We still keep in touch and cheer each other on with our small wins as we continue on our boundaries journeys which is so lovely.
Everyone should do this course, it’ll change your life! I’m cheering any future attendees on!”
Mégan | Completed The Boundaries Course in June 2021
➢ 5 weeks of guided self-study
➢ 15 x audio trainings (and transcripts)
➢ 15 x reflective exercises including templates, cheat-sheets and journal prompts
➢ 5 x 90-minute live group sessions with me on Zoom
➢ Your copy of The Boundaries Course Workbook
➢ A safe and comfortable space to talk about and explore all of this stuff with other people who feel the same
➢ Dedicated email support
➢ Lifetime access to the course materials
"I have struggled with boundaries for a long time, but especially so over the past year and find it so hard to put myself first without feeling guilty. The course has given me some brilliant advice that I can implement.
And the group sessions were supportive. It was lovely to hear other people's experiences and to know I was not alone in everything.
If you are debating doing the course, I would say do it, it will be the best decision you make and you will not regret it at all."
Gemma | Completed The Boundaries Course in June 2021
This course can:
Help you to understand your relationship with boundaries
Guide you to develop small, manageable boundaries (like saying no to things you don't want to do)
Support you to step into your own power & create meaningful changes for yourself
This course can not:
Provide an alternative or substitute to working with a therapist
Support you with creating more complex boundaries (like overcoming longstanding relationship difficulties)
Offer you a 'one size fits all' or fast-track method for finding boundaries easy
"I got so much more out of this course than I ever anticipated! I learned so much about myself through this work, and the pace of the lessons really guided me towards deep self-reflection and understanding/compassion.
The group sessions were lovely, supportive, communal experiences. The camaraderie, bravery, vulnerability, honesty, encouragement and attentive listening made this course the rewarding experience it was for me – it's so important not to feel you are alone or the only one!"
Julie | Completed The Boundaries Course in June 2021