You’re exhausted from always saying yes.
But you're scared to rock the boat. Scared of disappointing people. Scared of feeling horribly guilty if you even think about putting yourself first.
You just want a life where you can breathe a bit.
✦ Where you don't feel responsible for everyone's feelings.
✦ Where you can prioritise yourself without feeling like a terrible person.
✦ Where you feel steady, calm and free to live your way .
If this sounds like you, here's what you need to know:
Putting others first is not about pleasing them. It's about feeling safe.
When other people are happy, you feel settled. When they aren't, your nervous system is on-edge.
So you say yes, go over & above and abandon yourself, to calm the internal panic.
✦ You don't need to get braver, you need to feel emotionally safe to set boundaries ✦
You need to learn to feel steady and safe, even when others aren’t perfectly happy, so you can stop living in constant reaction to their feelings, and start choosing what’s right for you.
Imagine your shoulders relaxing because:
✦ You trust others with their feelings and don't carry them as yours.
✦ You can steady yourself through guilt, instead of abandoning what you need.
✦ Your focus is on your life, not managing everyone else's.
✦ You can say no to invites and cancel plans just because you need to.
What’s waiting for you inside Build Better Boundaries:
Across 6 self-study modules, I'll teach you my Safe Boundaries Framework, to help you feel emotionally steady and equipped to prioritise yourself.
You'll feel safe enough to set your first (or next) boundary within 6 weeks!
*As part of the Black Friday offer, you will also receive a free 1-1 boundaries coaching session, worth £200.
We'll cover:
Black Friday: Save 40% & get a free 1-1
Stories from previous participants:
Nicola
"I've always been a people-pleaser and found setting boundaries tough in terms of the emotional worry & guilt. You see and feel improvements quickly with BBB. I recognise I have been given a 'role' of being flexible and pleasing, but I didn't ask for this and I can reject it now because [I can see] I have a choice, I can move out the lane I've always been in. Now I genuinely feel OK looking out for myself and my own needs. BBB is 100% worth investing in. "
Eva
"People pleasing others constantly was making me feel unwell and resentful. Now I feel I have a choice and have acknowledged to myself I matter too. I feel more in control of my happiness, serving my own self care before attending to others, and feel much less resentful. The personalised support from Elsie whilst doing the course made a huge difference to me. I'm really glad I took the time and spent the money on BBB to break this unhealthy cycle.”
I'm Elsie, the Psychotherapist behind BBB
For almost a decade, I've specialised in supporting people who are ready to finally do something about their lack of boundaries and difficulty with prioritising themselves.
My approach is rooted in the reality that putting others first at the expense of ourselves isn’t about being “too kind” or “too caring”, nor is it a personality trait or a part of who you are. It's a nervous system response that, with the right support, we can rewire to find long-term freedom from people-pleasing.
Inside BBB, I teach you my unique and proven Safe Boundaries Framework. You won’t just understand why it’s so uncomfortable to do what's right for you - you’ll learn how to move through the guilt that keeps you stuck.
And more than that, you’ll feel what it’s like to finally start saying yes to yourself - without losing your genuine care and warmth. This is not about becoming selfish, but simply including yourself in your circle of care.
...You can keep your kindness AND protect your time, energy and wellbeing. I'll show you how.
BBB includes:
✦ The Safe Boundaries Framework - My signature approach that makes setting boundaries feel safe instead of scary (the missing piece most boundary advice ignores!)
✦ 16 Video lessons - Gentle, clear and no longer than 15 minutes each.
✦ 12 Practical worksheets - exercises to build your boundaries confidence step by step.
✦ 13 Boundaries tools - including word-for-word scripts, techniques to connect to your authentic feelings and strategies to manage guilt.
✦ The Secret Boundaries Framework - Explore boundaries that require no direct conversation, so you can build confidence without others even knowing.
✦ The Spoken Boundaries Framework - Learn exactly how to shape verbal boundaries that are both clear about your needs AND considerate of others.
✦ Your Safe Boundaries Blueprint - A customised plan to maintain your boundaries after the course ends.
✦ Black Friday Bonus 1-1 Coaching Session - An opportunity to get personalised, individual support with your ongoing boundaries journey.
More words from previous participants:
Claire
"BBB is so so so helpful I can't begin to tell you. I am 52, about to see my youngest off to university, and I can feel the slow yet steady burn of change everywhere. The change I'm seeing is a positive, profound change in thinking and attitude. Thank you for your expertise, your gentle patience and giving someone who has spent her life forgetting what she wants and who she is the opportunity to pause and remember."
Sara
"I am a total people pleaser and struggle to set any boundaries, especially terrible guilt and fears of rejection if I do prioritise myself. But this morning I had a migraine and actually had the guts to message to cancel something instead of dosing myself up with painkillers and dragging myself there! Loving the course."
Laura
"I feel like I've been looking for this for a long time without knowing it. This course goes even deeper than I figured at first - I didn't realise just HOW big of an investment in myself I was about to make. So worth it. If you have the slightest feeling that BBB might be for you, I guarantee you that it is."
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Your purchase is protected by a money-back guarantee. If by the end of all 6 modules you still haven't set your first (or next) boundary, you can ask for a full refund.
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Note: these testimonials are from earlier iterations of my boundaries courses.
Amy
"Saying no was just not something I did, and if I did, it felt like I was letting people down. Now I feel lighter and empowered to express what I need and I don't ignore it so much."
