After a lifetime of attuning to everyone else’s needs
Therapy offers you a rare opportunity to spend intentional time connecting with yourself. It’s a space to explore your people-pleasing patterns in a way that goes deeper than just trying to set better boundaries, so you can understand what’s really driving these behaviours and finally start making the changes you know you need.
Whether people-pleasing has been part of your life for years or it’s something you’re only just starting to notice, I’ll support you to manage the guilt and anxiety you feel about prioritising yourself, let go of feeling responsible for everyone’s feelings, and start shaping your life around your own wants and needs, instead of being ruled by everyone else’s feelings and expectations.
Our work together might include:
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Exploring where your people-pleasing patterns came from, to understand why you struggle to prioritise yourself.
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Learning how to regulate yourself and your nervous system in response to conflict, discomfort and disappointment.
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Finding healthy emotional separation from others, so you no longer feel responsible for how they feel.
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Feeling safe to set the boundaries you know you need, without anxiety and panic talking you out of it.
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Giving you tools and resources to manage guilt, so it stops controlling your decisions and choices.
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Holding space to think about what actually makes you happy, and how you want your life to feel.
We’ll explore where your people-pleasing patterns came from, how they’re playing out day-to-day, and how to build the emotional separation you need to stop being ruled by other people’s feelings, so you can start shaping a life that reflects you.
The therapy process:
1. Informal chat
Explore this page or browse my Instagram to get a feel for how I work. If what I share resonates, complete this enquiry form. From here, I'll invite you to a free 30-minute Zoom call. so we can informally meet and explore whether working together feels like a good fit.
2. Making a start
Most people begin with weekly sessions, but fortnightly therapy is an option we can discuss. The first 6 - 8 sessions are about gently getting to know each other and building a foundation. We’ll explore what brings you to therapy and what you’d like to work on.
3. Ongoing therapy
We'll then move into open-ended psychotherapy, checking in regularly about how it's feeling. I’ll offer space for therapeutic exploration as well as practical support, helping you build the emotional steadiness you need to finally start making the changes you know you need.
Practicalities:
Location: Sessions take place on Zoom. I'm based in the UK and work with clients all over the world; I'm unable to work with clients based in the US or Canada.
Availability & fees: My practice hours are Monday - Thursday during the daytime; I offer a free 30-minute intro chat and regular sessions cost £150.
Frequency of sessions: I meet most clients weekly and also offer fortnightly therapy where needed/appropriate. This is something we can explore in your intro chat.
What's needed from you: You'll need access to the internet (strong enough to watch Netflix) and a device that has a camera. And it's vital you have a safe, quiet and private space to speak from.
