You're ready to put yourself back on your own priority list.
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You know you can't keep going like this - saying yes to everything, making yourself available all the time, going out of your way for others but not yourself. It's exhausting.
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You're resentful towards the people you're trying to please, some take advantage because you don't speak up or say no. Your relationships are imbalanced and it doesn't feel good.
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You say you're fine, but really you're anxious and on-edge, your life is ruled by guilt, and you can't stop worrying about other people's feelings and what they think of you.
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You're ready for some personalised, in-depth support to help you get to the root of the problem, so you can finally move forward differently.
It's time to get the support you need, from someone who understands.
I've been supporting people who call themselves 'people-pleasers' for almost a decade. My online therapy room is a safe, intentional space to explore and understand why you put others first, identify what's not working for you and offer you proven, tried and tested strategies for finally doing things differently.
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Therapy for people-pleasing is an opportunity to learn about yourself and how to meet your own needs, create healthy boundaries that protect your time, energy & health, and shift your focus towards self-care.
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This isn't about becoming selfish, but learning to care for yourself alongside everyone else. It's about engaging with life on your terms, and feeling free to live more authentically. It's not about losing your kindness, but caring in ways that no longer cost you your health, happiness and comfort.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM PEOPLE-PLEASING THERAPY
My approach is personalised and tailored to the individual. Part of the therapy process is to review often, so your experience, goals and the support you're looking for remain at the heart of our work together.
Here are some of the most common areas of focus and exploration:
✦ Exploring where your people-pleasing patterns came from, to get to the root of why you struggle to prioritise yourself.
✦ Connecting to your authentic feelings & needs, and learning how to value and prioritise them in the same way you do everyone else's.
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✦ Learning how to regulate yourself and your nervous system around conflict & confrontation.
✦ Finding healthy emotional separation from other people, so worrying about their feelings no longer stops you from following your own.
✦ Holding space to think about what actually makes you happy, and how you want your life to feel.
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✦ Learning how to trust yourself, instead of seeking reassurance and validation from your friends and family.
✦ Giving you tools, frameworks and resources to manage how guilty you feel about prioritising yourself, so it stops controlling your decisions.
✦ Introducing healthy boundaries that protect your time, energy and capacity, without anxiety and panic talking you out of it. ​​
THE PRACTICALITIES
WHERE & WHEN:
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My clinic is open on Tuesday and Thursday daytimes, and sessions take place on Zoom. I work with clients all over the world (excluding the US & Canada).
HOW OFTEN: ​​
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I meet most clients weekly and usually long-term (over a period of months, as opposed to weeks). Fortnightly sessions are an option we can explore in your intro call. ​
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FEES: ​
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30-minute introductory call: Free
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Regular sessions: £150 for 50 minutes.
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YOU'LL NEED: ​
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Access to the internet (strong enough to watch Netflix) and a device that has a camera. And it's vital you have a safe, quiet and private space to speak from. ​​​​
NEXT STEPS FOR STARTING PEOPLE-PLEASING THERAPY:
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Click the button below to express your interest in working together, and book your free 30 minute introductory call.
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On the call, we'll explore the support you're looking for and the therapy process in more detail, to help us establish whether we're a good fit to work together.
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If after meeting we're both happy to progress, we'll arrange your first session, and go from there. There's no pressure to commit to anything after the call.