Hello! I've always had an interest in people (some call me nosy) and this, combined with my own experience of therapy in my teens, inspired me to become a therapist.
I practice using an integrative approach which is more simple than it might sound. It basically means that I integrate various tools from different approaches to therapy. In case you're interested, these are largely Transactional Analysis, Person-Centred and creative approaches (if these terms mean nothing to you, don't worry, they don't need to. If you'd like to know, I'd suggest a quick Google!).
My clients tell me I offer a warm, safe and understanding space. That working with me is gentle whilst also softly challenging. I see myself as a recovering 'people-pleaser' and have my own experience of needing to learn how to live my life in a way that makes sense to me. I'm open to sharing more about this within my work, where that feels useful and welcome. Some clients find it helpful and supportive to feel that their therapist is also human and on a healing journey of their own.
A little bit about 'people-pleasing'
The people I work with sometimes identify with the 'people-pleaser' label. Often, we've built our lives and identities around being flexible, helpful and accommodating. You yourself may have spent a long time putting other people's needs and feelings at the centre of your life. It may feel hard to identify what you need or ask for what you want.
It's possible to start to change the way you relate to yourself and the people in your life. You can learn how to pay closer attention to what you might want. Focus less on everyone else and more on what works for you.
You are important, too. Your needs matter, too. You are allowed to really enjoy your life, and do all the things that make sense, and feel good, to you.
I've discovered we can gently shift the way we live our lives, so, very gradually, we start to live in a way that reflects our needs and what works for each of us. Usually, this doesn't mean losing our kindness and care, or becoming really 'difficult' or hard to be around. If you enter into this work, you'll mostly likely become a more authentic and connected version of yourself - more 'you', not less. There's huge potential for you.
Training and experience
I hold a Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling from the Northern Guild for Psychotherapy. Following qualification, I studied Psychotherapy at post-graduate level for an additional 2 years. I've since completed 2 in-depth trainings in remote therapy practice, equipping me with the resources and skills needed to deliver effective therapy via the phone and online.
I began clinical work in February 2017, where I worked for 2 charities supporting those with various mental health difficulties and diagnoses, before I started my private therapy practice in 2019.
A year later, I began posting to Instagram as @the_peoplepleasing_therapist. In November 2020, I started teaching my course (The Boundaries Course) and this inspired my groups for people-pleasers that I now run 3 times a year. My working life today includes a mix of long-term psychotherapy work, my groups, teaching educational sessions about people-pleasing and creating content for Instagram.
I'm an Accredited Professional Member of the National Counselling Society. This means I'm on a Register that has been accredited by the Professional Standards Authority. My membership number is: NCS21-01979.
If you'd like to explore starting therapy, the first step is to complete my therapy enquiry form.