This is all about creating space between you and the situations where you always put other people first. You'll learn how to interrupt your automatic reactions, with tools to help you connect to your needs and feelings, instead of defaulting to other people's.

The focus of this step is learning how to use your pause to stay calm, independently of how other people are feeling, with tools to help you regulate your nervous system separately to what's happening for them. You'll also get clear on what is and isn't your responsibility, and start to let go of carrying the weight of their feelings.

Once you're no longer weighed down by everyone else's feelings, you're ready to build your boundaries. There are 2 frameworks - one for ‘secret’ boundaries that nobody else needs to know about, and one for ‘spoken’ boundaries that are clear about what you need and considerate of those involved. You'll also learn how to manage guilt after you set a boundary, so it doesn't pull you back into putting yourself last.

BBB is for anyone who consistently puts others first, struggles to say no, and feels anxious or guilty at the thought of prioritising themselves. If you're exhausted from carrying everyone else's feelings, and you've tried to change but still haven’t been able to, this is for you!

BBB gives you lifetime access to structured content you can work through at your own pace, at a fraction of the cost of weekly therapy. It's practical, focused specifically on boundaries and people-pleasing.  That said, it isn't therapy, and it doesn't replace professional support - particularly if you're navigating complex trauma or an unsafe relationship. If you're unsure whether BBB or therapy is right for you right now, feel free to pop me an email and we can talk it through.

BBB is a 6-week self-study course (no live participation) with 6 modules, each with 4-5 lessons, made up of videos, audios, worksheets, exercises tools and resources. You also get email support from me throughout - just email with a question anytime and I'll come straight back to you.

If you complete all the modules, worksheets and exercises within 6 weeks and still haven't set a single boundary, you can request a full refund.

Yes - being on the interest list means you pay £195 instead of the standard £295, saving £100. Payment plans are also available to spread the cost over 2, 3 or 4 monthly payments.

BBB is hosted on Teachery, an online learning platform. Once your payment is processed you'll receive an email with everything you need to get started. It's accessible from any device with an internet connection. I’ve recorded a 2 min tour of BBB here, so you can see exactly what it’s like.

You'll have unlimited access to the course, so you can revisit the content whenever you need to and start (and finish) when it works for you.

Each module is designed to take about an hour, spread across a couple of sittings. Most people work through one module a week, but you're welcome to go at whatever pace works for you.

Yes. While BBB is self-study, I'm available by email throughout - just reply to any of my emails or get in touch directly. And if you join the interest list, you'll also have the chance to book one of a limited number of free 1:1 coaching sessions with me too.

I'm a Psychotherapist with a Postgraduate Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling, 2 years of further Postgraduate Psychotherapy study, and nearly a decade of specialist experience in boundaries, people-pleasing and codependency. I'm a Professional Accredited member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society.

I'd love to help you answer it - just pop me an email at info@elsieowen.com and I'll come back to you.

Discover what boundaries really are (and aren't) Complete The Boundaries Audit to see where you need support Find your Boundaries Anchor to stay grounded Use The People-Pleasing Pattern Tracker to understand your triggers

Identify your People-Pleasing Archetype Understand the "They're OK, You're OK" dynamic that drives your pleasing Learn the Power of Separateness to stop taking on others' emotions Practice the Responsibility Hoop Visualisation to identify what's actually yours to carry

Follow the Safe Boundaries Framework step by step Learn to press pause before automatically people-pleasing Develop personalised regulation techniques for boundary-setting anxiety Build your Regulation Toolkit

Empower yourself to choose boundaries that feel right for you Build 'Secret Boundaries' that no one else needs to know about Use The Script Framework to build verbal boundaries that are clear AND kind Complete The Boundary Builder Worksheet and set your first [or next] boundary

Learn to manage guilt without giving in to it Use the Guilt-Free Grounding Toolkit when the discomfort comes up Learn to stay steady when others react negatively to your boundaries Learn to treat yourself as equal to others (not less than!)

Plan your future boundaries with clarity and confidence Revisit your Boundaries Audit to celebrate your progress Create your personalised Safe Boundaries Blueprint for ongoing support Learn how to maintain your boundaries long-term