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IT'S TIME TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT HOW MUCH TIME AND ENERGY YOU LOSE TRYING TO MAKE PEOPLE HAPPY.
Maybe this feels familiar:
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You offer help you don’t have time for, you lend the money, rearrange your day, go out of your way - you feel resentful that others don't do the same for you.
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You feel the weight of other people's feelings, pick up on their moods and feel responsible for fixing their problems - you hate that you're always at the bottom of the list.
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You've been told a million times you need to "just say no" - but you can't. And you're incredibly frustrated with yourself for continuing to repeat the cycle.
The problem isn't that you're too kind & caring
It’s that no one taught you where you end, and others begin. So instead of relating as separate people, their feelings feel like yours to manage, their problems yours to solve.
That tiredness, that stretched-thin feeling, you’re not imagining it - you’re carrying a lot of other people’s 'stuff' that was never yours to hold.
You’d love to prioritise yourself, but right now your whole body reacts as if stepping back isn’t safe. It feels like abandonment. Like you’ll be failing people if you do.
Because your nervous system is wired to take on other people’s feelings as a way to feel safe, leaving you anxious and unsure about what’s yours to carry, and what has nothing to do with you.
...You need to re-establish the invisible boundary between you and everyone else, so you can healthily protect your time and energy, without feeling so guilty and responsible for the impact on them.
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What's waiting for you inside The Reset?
The Reset is completely self-study, with a mix of short videos, worksheets and exercises, held inside a simple online portal. You will have unlimited access, so you can go at your own pace and revisit at any time.
Across 3 short modules, the course includes:
✦ The 8 key questions that help you see where you’ve been taking on too much, and where you can take action to make the most impact.
✦ The one mindset shift that makes it feel safe and comfortable to focus on yourself and your needs, without making you feel cold or selfish.
✦ The visualisation tool that rewires how you relate to guilt, care, and over-helping, in just a few minutes a day.
✦ The Rescue Reset Framework: 3 tools to help you pause, protect your energy, and value your capacity in the moment, instead of realising afterwards.
✦ The complete Responsibility Reset Framework - your go-to method for feeling good and excited about prioritising yourself, so your wants and needs stop going unnoticed.
I'M ELSIE,THE THERAPIST BEHIND THE RESET.
For almost a decade, I've specialised in supporting people who are ready to finally do something about their lack of boundaries and difficulty with prioritising themselves.
Here's what I see time and time again:
You can be told to "just say no" or "stop being a people-pleaser" a million times over, and it still won't help you do it.
Because it's never actually been about saying no. It's about your response to that word, and how uncomfortable you feel about the broader idea of prioritising yourself.
Inside The Reset, you'll get to the root of why you take so much responsibility for other people's feelings and happiness, and discover a new framework for finally turning your attention to yourself and your needs.
You'll learn how to ease the pressure to please others, and actually start prioritising yourself, even if you've spent your whole life trying to keep the peace.
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